Anonymous asked: Can sub/Dom relationships or lifestyles be completely sex positive? Why do you think people have these fantasies?
Of course they can be be sex positive. Any relationship can be sex positive. As long as they’re setting and sticking to their personal boundaries and everyone’s a consenting adult, there’s no reason for them to not be sex positive. The power dynamic of a D/s relationship is slightly different than that of a vanilla couple, but it’s a power dynamic that they prefer and consent to, so it’s OK. Sex positivity is about letting adults do what they want to sexually as long as everyone involved is healthy, safe, and consenting, and that includes kinks.
People have different fantasies for different reasons, and they have different kinks for different reasons, too. And not all doms and subs and switches are the same, or have the same reasons for their kinkiness, or are kinky in the same way. For example, my kinks tend to be based around control and mutual pleasure. Other people’s kinks might be based around something else. And that’s OK.