I am a safer sex nerd. I want to know everything there is to know about safer sex so I can pass on what I am learning to other people.
On the table I have: Nitril gloves, condoms, Sheer Glyde dams, alcohol swabs, and a few bottles of lube.
Why Nitril gloves? Because they are soft and because many people are allergic to latex. And, of course because they feel good and they act as a fluid barrier between my body and other people’s bodies. (Why a box and a bag of gloves? Because I always keep gloves, dams, and condoms both at home (the box) and in my backpack for wherever else I might find myself wanting to be sexual)
Why Glyde dams? Glyde dams are not dental dams. They are specifically manufactured for safer sex. They are the only dams that have been clinically proven to lower the transmission rates of sexually transmitted infections (STI/STD).
Why more than one lube? The little bottle is specifically for one of my lovers. When I have more than one lover, I never use the same lube for more than one person because that would increase the possibility of spreading STIs from one lover to another. In addition, different lubes work better for different parts (and people). I like Maxim for my back bottoms, but it is horrible for front bottoms. I am trying out Sliquid Sassy for my front bottoms. I am very sensitive, so far Sliquid isn’t causing me any problems (yay!).
Why condoms? Condoms make good jackets for penis friends. They work wonders on porous dildos (most dildos are porous, meaning they have little pockets where STIs can hang out before they go from one body to another). In addition, they can be used to cover hands when gloves are not available, and they can be cut into makeshift dams.
Why more than one condom? I always, always have more than one condom. A minimum of 4 is good. If someone is going from back bottoms to front bottoms, the condom needs to be changed to prevent bacteria from spreading from front to back, which, if it does spread can cause really bad infections in the front. If a condom fails inspection before use, toss it and grab another one. Oral sex? I grab a dam or a condom. If folks are switching, then I want to have a new condom so we aren’t exchanging fluids. If more than two people are present, I make sure there are at least 2 condoms for each person, depending on what activities they prefer. (And I always check the expiration date).
Why the alcohol swabs? If anyone gets cut, I swab it down immediately on my way to the hot soapy water. I swab down dildos etc in addition to soap and hot water. And, in general I just plain old like to have alcohol swabs. (which reminds me, that box is empty and I need to buy more!!!)
Why safer sex? Because it feels great, allows me to create a safer environment for myself and my lover(s). It reduces my anxiety during sexual activities. It increases my self esteem to know that I have developed a valuable skill set that I can teach to others.
Safe sex and sex positive nerds unite!
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