Fuck Yeah, Sex Positivity!

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May 2013

114 posts

Anonymous asked: My gf wants to be poly. I don't. She got another girlfriend on the side, and when i went to visit family, she moved the other girl into our apartment. i got home, and the girl has moved into my space, but is like, weird and welcoming and actually a nice person. I don't think she knows i'm not cool with it. But she's a stranger, and i don't know what to do. I'm not...

Anonymous asked: A few days ago, I found out what demisexuality was. I've always just identified as heterosexual because it was the closest word I could find to how I truly identified. But, now, I know what demisexuality is, and, I can honestly that I am demisexual. But, I'm having a hard time coming to terms with it, which confuses me a little. Also, I kind of want to know what this means for me, as a...

Anonymous asked: I'm a 19y/o hetero female. I have a bf and we have a great sex life. However, I have a difficult time having an orgasm with him. I can do it myself, but when I'm with him, it's almost like I'm over stimulated. It feels good, but sometimes it gets to that point where it's too muc/hurts before the O. I feel bad if I take a long time/can't, so I fake it. He'd be...

Anonymous asked: Is it okay to have no idea what your sexuality is? I usually don't think about it, but when I do, I get so confused. I'm a woman. I have a preference for men, but I can see myself being with another woman or a trans*person. I don't really think about sex a lot, and sexual attraction is kinda weird and rare for me. I just don't know what to call it and it really confuses me...

Anonymous asked: My new boyfriend brought up the topic of sex in a conversation and that he has been wanting it for a while now. I told him I did too (because I really do) but I don't even know what to do t all. I know protection is a must. But what else should I know so I can go into it and know what I'm doing? Also, if the condom breaks I know to buy Plan B but can you always buy it in advance just in...

coffeeandfisting asked: I wanted to share quickly my experiences with PCT: Something that I've found really helps is that, when I feel that emotional buildup like I'm going to cry / get sad, I try to force it out as a laugh instead, and often I wind up giggling for a little while. It's not something I could do with past partners (becuz sex was "srs bidniz," haha) but finding someone I can laugh...

Anonymous asked: I've seen all those crying posts, and yeah people, it's pretty normal. Myself I sang or hum when i've reached climax.

Anonymous asked: I do the crying thing as well. Most of the time my emotions are released as a huge giggle fit but sometimes I just can't help but cry!! You are not alone Anon!

Anonymous asked: since we're on the subject of crying - for some reason whenever my g-spot is being stimulated I get really breathless and tense and start crying? doesn't happen with any other stimulation, just g spot and it's? really kind of concerning to me

Anonymous asked: To the anon who was worried about their crying post-orgasm/sex, I am sexually active as well and I masturbate regularly. However, I once had a full blown panic attack after a session once that left me shaken for a while, but like was said, orgasms can sometimes lead to huge releases of emotions. They're not always positive, but it is better to let them out than to keep them stored inside...

Anonymous asked: This isn't the original anon, but is post-orgasmic depression a thing? I rarely achieve orgasm during sex, and I'm always in a really good mood after intercourse, but when I masturbate I orgasm and I always feel like a sense of despair afterwards and I thought it was just me being weird?!

Anonymous asked: I just masterbated for the first time. It was a success. I had to tell someone. :)

Anonymous asked: So I achieved orgasm for the first time in my life last night. It was the best sex I've had! (and I've been sexually active for around a year now) but when the sex was over and my partner was cleaning up I started crying for no reason. Not like sobbing but tears were coming down and I had no control over it. My partner felt really bad and cuddled me to help stop the crying but I...

Anonymous asked: @that one anon: perhaps you're just attracted to androgyny, like i am. not necessarily just in terms of appearance, but behaviour too. like when i see a boy acting in a typically feminine manner, i'm all like "hot a what"

Anonymous asked: regarding that one post; i am asexual. but i'm still sex positive.

The best significant others are the ones who talk with you about feminism after a few rounds of kinky sex. Butt bruises + “MRAs are such ignorant asses” = best date night ever. —BB

Anonymous asked: ok. awkward question time. so i'm a cis male. i've heard anal sex is great, and would like to try it with my (also cis) boyfriend, but i mean there's poop in there how exactly do i go about this ?

sexualfrustrationmama: we don’t need to “teach girls to say no”, we need to teach boys to take “no” for an answer so that girls who learn to say no, who already say no, who’ve been saying no can feel like it’s even a viable option that’ll have an effect in the first place

“When obese people are at the size genetically normal for them, their energy...”

– Sandy Szwarc -How We’ve Come to Believe Overeating Causes Obesity (via hityoutwo) Another one in honor of the asshole who believes that all fat people eat too much and lie about it. (via atheologist)

RbR: Can I be sex positive even if I'm scared of...

Is it possible to be sex positive but have HUGE sex related anxiety/performance anxiety? I’ve never had a boyfriend that is willing to explore MY needs or try anything new… in fact, my longest sexual relationship (the second one) lasted only 3 months. I feel like I know nothing. I fear making out, and I live in terror of the first time. I just want to meet someone that makes me feel...

Anonymous asked: Is it possible to be sex positive but have HUGE sex related anxiety/performance anxiety? I've never had a boyfriend that is willing to explore MY needs or try anything new... in fact, my longest sexual relationship (the second one) lasted only 3 months. I feel like I know nothing. I fear making out, and I live in terror of the first time. I just want to meet someone that makes me feel...

Anonymous asked: Hey, I'm a bi cis girl in an all girls school, and im perfectly comfortable with being bi and everything, but i have this thing that whenever i see a girl acting a boy in like a play or something (which happens quite a lot due to the all girls thing) it makes me see them as like so attractive, i was just wondering does this mean anything in particular?

“This media event should do more than teach us that there are laughably prudish...”

– Anne Frank’s diary isn’t pornographic – it just reveals an uncomfortable truth | Emer O’Toole | Comment is free | guardian.co.uk (via sexisnottheenemy)

“I’m wary of anything that smacks of “making feminism sexy.” Sex-positivity...”

– The Pervocracy: What I Mean When I Say I’m Sex-Positive. (via sexisnottheenemy)

Anonymous asked: Is it possible for a cis person to experience body disphoria? Whenever I have to go and take a shower--the only time I take my clothes completely off--I get this terrible feeling in my stomach like my body's wrong, but I'm female-bodied and identify as such. It's confusing and disgusting and annoying.

Anonymous asked: hi! I'm a cis female who identifies as a lesbian. I love my vagina and the rest of my body and would never want change it, but I occasionally find myself fantasizing about what it'd be like to have a penis. (almost exclusively regarding sexual things) is this normal? does this mean anything?

Anonymous asked: Any tips on safe sex for lesbians partners?

Anonymous asked: So, Age of Consent. I live in the State of Oregon, which is one of the few states where the age is 18. I'm concerned because I turn 18 this fall and he is exactly one year younger than I am. I know it's one matter of getting caught, but what are the actual implications for where I live? What does having sex under 18 mean if we're both consenting and what changes after my birthday?

When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men →

damegreywulf: And how the stereotype flipped. This article in general does a good breakdown about the myth of women and men having unequal sexualities, and about how sexual appetite and how it is treated is greatly influenced by sociological factors rather than instinct and drive. Another article about this that has a lot of chain articles you should also read is The No-Sex Class Paradigm. ...

A word of advice to trans women

fan-troll: interruptmag: Go to your nearest target. Buy a two pack of pushup bras (24$ for 2), and target’s bra inserts (12$). Then go to your nearest Walmart and buy the Vasserette Control Shapewear Panties (2.50 each), they do wonders for helping your tuck. There you go! You just saved yourself a lot of money, you can afford to buy enough to wear every day, and best of all you look...

thelongroadwithin asked: Re: Anon w/ questions about contraceptive sponges. I've never personally used them - but like BB, I've had serious issues with anything spermicidal screwing up my Ph balance and causing unpleasant reactions. My preferred method of birth control is actually the Nuva ring. Quick, easy - can be part of foreplay to get it situated and has a much lower dose of hormones than the patch or...

Elizabeth Smart says abstinence-only education... →

This is lovely. Trigger warning for discussion of rape and human trafficking. —BB

“I’m sex-positive! And I’m realizing that’s a painfully ambiguous term. I’ve...”

– Cliff Pervocracy, What I Mean When I Say I’m Sex-Positive (via duosthefangirl)

hello tumblr! →

transtrading: if you’re a transitioning ftm, mtf, or any non-binary, please donate “gender-assigned” clothing that you no longer need if you can! how to donate: take a few pictures of the clothing offered submit them to the blog with a description of the item (i.e. size, if it has been worn, if there are any problems with it, etc.) post a link to an email where someone interested can reach...

“I think understanding of sexual consent—what it is, why it matters—is sorely...”

– Yes, yes, yes, a thowsund teims YESSSSS. Cliff over at The Pervocracy nails it again. (via evaporites) Cliff is wonderful. :3 —BB

Anonymous asked: What is your opinion on contraceptive sponges? My boyfriend and I have recently started using them, mostly for the experience of having sex without a condom, and while he likes them, I'm- not so enthusiastic. I enjoy the feeling, but the sponges themselves make me dry during if we go for a while, and then I always feel kinda gross for a day or so afterward. (cont)

livinginthewing asked: The women's collective at UNSW (in Sydney, Australia) was hoping to run a seminar on safe sex and I was wondering if you or any of your followers knew of anyone we could contact to provide a speaker or something along those lines?

Anonymous asked: also: don't let the asexuality (or any sexuality) be the main character trait of a person. let them have a full personality. but still explain their feelings towards the issue.

mostshockingtwistyet asked: Ok, so if you're going to write an asexual character, you have to be aware that a) aromantic =/= asexual b) Asexual ppl can still have sex, they just don't have the DRIVE to have sex c) being aromantic/asexual does not make you a coldhearted villain, and does not really effect your mood except when you think about it too hard. Also, dealing with the societal pressures of EVERYONE SHOULD...

Anonymous asked: I'm thinking of writing something involving an asexual character. This is something I haven't tried writing before and I want to do it right, so do you or your followers have any tips?

iamacollectionofmiscellanyandtea: polyamorouslife: Open Relationships and Open Minds A new social website for the ethically non-monogamous. I am OneMoreRose there. :) This looks super cool! —BB

RbR: Why "I Like Men, Women, and Trans* People" Is...

In your last post you mentioned that third gendering is wrong. Can you please explain that? Thanks! Anonymous If you make trans* people a separate group from men and women, you’re saying that trans men aren’t men and trans women aren’t women, which is wrong. There are certainly trans* people who are non-binary, but a lot of them aren’t, and so making them their own special category from the...

theinfamousz asked: Can you please make your third gender answers rebloggable?

“With that in mind, my first suggestion for you is that you understand that the...”

– Q&A: Am I Orgasming? (via thecsph)

Anonymous asked: In response to the anon: I'm taking an RS GCSE, and in order to present a belief that will either be complex enough to get me all the marks or simple enough to be quickly summarised, I frequently pretend to be a different religion in the 'what's your opinion?' questions. For example, on our last practice test I was an atheist, a Buddhist, and a Muslim to answer different...