Anonymous said: I JUST CAME OUT TO MY SISTER AS TRANS AND SHE WAS TOTALLY SUPPORTIVE AND COOL WITH IT CAN I GET A HECK YEAH

HECK YEAH

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—BB

fenchurchdent:

chicklikemeblog:

Playboy’s catcall flowchart.  

I’m reblogging Playboy. Somebody stop me. 

fenchurchdent:

chicklikemeblog:

Playboy’s catcall flowchart.  

I’m reblogging Playboy. Somebody stop me. 

(via rapturesrevenge)

Anonymous said: I thought RACK and SSC referred to different things, though? Like, I specifically thought RACK referred to things considered to be "harder" or more dangerous, like rape roleplay without safewords. Is that not true?

pervocracy:

I’ve heard that some places, but I don’t really buy into it.  It’s not a hard-and-fast rule, anyway.

I’ve already talked about my issues with “sane”, but “safe” is not great either.  In my opinion, all kink is “risk aware” rather than “safe”, because there’s no such a thing as safe, even for play that looks super light and fluffy.  Not every kind of play is dangerous—some can be very low risk—but risk always exists.

(Also, I’d classify rape roleplay without safewords as NNN kink: NO NO NO.  That fails the “consensual” part of RACK, because if someone tries to safeword and the play doesn’t stop, what you’re doing is no longer roleplay.

"Don’t stop even if I say no" is fine.  That’s what safewords are for.  But "don’t stop no matter what" is… just hitting my limit on what exactly is acceptable in the name of a good time.  And, like "I don’t have limits," I think it shows a lack of imagination as to what "no matter what" can really include.)

themidwifeisin:

You all knew that there were two types of birth control pills, right?  This is the second type - the progesterone-only, or mini pills.  Read up - Molly has made you a super handy, clear explanation of them.

faces-for-equality:

Trans people are everywhere.

(via curiously-chamomile-queer)

Anonymous said: Im not trying to be rude but your sexuality means you want more than one person or something ? I hope your mum accepts you and stuff though

No, it’s fine, asking questions is a good thing! And yeah, being polyamorous means you have the capacity to love/have sex with/be in a relationship with more than one person at a time. It’s not the same thing as being queer, because you can have a straight poly person or a monogamous queer person. It’s just another facet of sexuality.

—BB

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madkao:

PUNJAMMIES™ are made by women in India rescued from forced prostitution seeking to rebuild their lives. Proceeds from the sales of PUNJAMMIES™ provide fair-trade wages, savings accounts, and holistic recovery care.

THESE are gorgeous and I want some

jesus these look COMFORTABLE 

THE FULL LENGTH KAROONA ONES OH MY GOD THE MIGHTIEST OF NEEDS

GIMME GIMME GIMME they are beautifull

They come in plus sizes too, y’all!

Dear all the women in my family: I buy you pajamas for presents now. It’s a thing. Just roll with it.

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DO NOT BUY THESE FUCKING THINGS

These are made by women who are FORCED OUT OF THEIR CHOSEN JOBS AND FORCED INTO GARMENT MAKING which is an incredibly common problem with “rescue programs” in exploited nations. This company is founded by a white woman who wanted to ‘save’ poor oppressed brown women from the sex industry and so what happened? Now these women are working shit jobs with shit wages after being forced into the justice system and been given the option of prison time or this. 

That is NOT choice, that is NOT helping, this is a SCAM and a FARCE and yet another example of WOMEN’S LABOR BEING EXPLOITED. The rescue industry is a major provider of labor to garment manufacturing, it’s not CHOICE, its FORCE and EXPLOITATIVE.

bolding for emphasis because wow.

someone asked me for a source and this is yet another moment where I wish Andrew were still alive ugh but APNSW The Asia Pacific Network of Sex Workers, have written about this extensively some of which is on their wordpress

Seriously people, always be critical of ANYTHING that claims to be ‘rescuing sex workers/trafficking survivors’ because its almost NEVER what it appears.

https://www.facebook.com/leelaneena, https://www.facebook.com/APNSW, http://www.nswp.org/, http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-27903426, http://www.lauraagustin.com/tag/rescue-industry, http://apnsw.wordpress.com/page/8/ this shit is crazy

Honestly I would be surprised if any desi person didn’t look at this cokie-eyed from the get go, because once you’ve been called a “stupid Pun” by some cracker you don’t hear that shorthand slur of “Punjabi” without an instinctive twitch. Basically they might as well be called “Cooliepants” or “Curryknickers” or someshit like that.

Sorting out the links in the previous reply

https://www.facebook.com/leelaneena (amazing activist’s Facebook, connected with APSNW, publicly available through their website)

https://www.facebook.com/APNSW Asia Pacific Network of Sex Workers Facebook

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-27903426 article about sex work in Indonesia, specifically the closing of the Dolly Red Light District

http://www.lauraagustin.com/tag/rescue-industry Laura Augstine’s tag about the rescue industry

http://apnsw.wordpress.com/page/8/ Asia Pacific Network of Sex Workers discussing anti-trafficking in Cambodia, HIV and several other articles.

All of these are great sources for learning about the rescue industry in Asia, and the phenomena of forcing sex workers out of their jobs into garment manufacturing which is a huge problem for sex workers there. What people like @entitledlesbian I think was their URL fail to realize is that this is an industry that profits from the moral panic of sex trafficking, pushes for criminalization which directly includes the State criminalizing condom usage and performing brothel raids (as does The International Princess Project, who makes these pants). This is how they get their labor; through criminalizing sex work. It is an intersection of misogyny, racism, whorephobia and capitalism.

More about trafficking here 

I think I might have reblogged this post before but without the commentary on the sex workers being forced into garment making.

I’m reblogging it now with the links so my followers can look through them if they want.

(via bemusedlybespectacled)

malflourished said: Yikes! Seems your mom doesn't have a basic grasp on feminism nor the idea that you are an adult and can make your own choices! I'm sorry that she has made you feel bad and I hope you know that none of what she said is true and there's nothing wrong with your lifestyle!

My mom’s a feminist, she’s just really second-wave. But thank you. :)

—BB

Anonymous said: Just read your post and I'm so sorry. I wish your mom knew better. You've done a lot for so many people through this blog, including me. I've become so much more informed, so much more comfortable with my body and sexuality. That's just me--nevermind all the anons you've given wonderful support and advice to (*cough* ive read all 73 pages of your advice tag). You're amazing. I hope someday your mom is proud of you for the entire person you are. I get how these things can be complicated.

wow I’m actually crying like physically crying this isn’t even exaggeration? just. thank you I needed that right now

—BB

Personal Post: Rargh

So last month I went to the gynecologist, and as it was approaching my 21st birthday, I got a pap smear and I got my birth control refilled and all that jazz. It was pretty nice.

[medical stuff and feelingsdump under the cut]

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