Anonymous said: I have read so many bits of conflicting information on this, so I thought I'd ask you: Is it safe to have sex during pregnancy? And if so, up to what point? I've also heard that having sex can help bring on labor... is this true? Thank you!

themidwifeisin:

Unless you have a specific complication that your doctors/midwives have talked to you about, it is definitely safe to have sex during pregnancy.

Rules to live by:

  • Use condoms if you don’t know your partner’s STI status - new STI infections during pregnancy are much more dangerous for the fetus.
  • Stop if you have any discomfort.
  • Stop if you have any bleeding and call your practitioner right away.
  • Read this post of mine suggesting good sex positions during pregnancy.
  • Reasons why not to have sex during pregnancy: previous miscarriage, previous preterm labor, low placenta or placenta previa, unexplained bleeding, or your practitioner told you not to.
  • Orgasm can bring on labor at the end of pregnancy.  This can be a problem or it can be used as a tool.  Call your practitioner if you start experiencing regular contractions after orgasm.
  • Semen can be used to bring on labor when ejaculated onto the cervix.  Again - no messing around with STIs.  Don’t have unprotected sex unless you know your partner’s STI status.

A German midwife that I worked with way back would send her over-due patients home with a prescription for doggy-style sex 3 times a day.  I tend to explain to my patient that they don’t have to do it in any particular position or nearly that rigorously, but I like to explain how it can help.

genderpunk-dragon:

bandersnatchery:

"Vancouver School Board Introduces Gender-Neutral Pronouns"

"Students and teachers in Vancouver can now use the gender-neutral pronouns "xe," "xem," and "xyr." The move is designed to accommodate students for whom "he" and "she" does not fit or is deemed inappropriate…
"The newly coined pronouns — xe, xem, and xyr — are pronounced to rhyme with the genderless plurals "they," "them," and "their," and all starting with the "z" sound. So phonetically speaking, they’re pronounced "zey, "zem", and "zare.""

(Source: io9)
Click here to read the full article.

the article doesn’t do the issue justice.
the issue regarded policy change, where the vancouver school board’s (VSB) LGBTQ+ advisory committee re-wrote existing policy to protect staff and students falling on the queer and trans spectrums. 
the policy revision includes
-they/them/their and non-traditional pronouns being recognized by the school system
-required used of preferred names and pronouns by all staff and students
-preferred names/pronouns on all school records
-gender-accesible washrooms and change rooms available to those who require them
-disciplinary action taken against those who act in a discriminatory or hateful manner towards students, staff, and families falling on the queer and trans spectrums
—————-
the consultation was the longest ever done by the VSB, with over 120 speakers spread across 3 meetings. 
the process also resulting in two school board trustees being ejected form their party’s caucus, due their discriminatory actions and arguments. 
these are links to stories by vancouver media about the issue
CBC
metro news
global BC
huffington post

genderpunk-dragon:

bandersnatchery:

"Vancouver School Board Introduces Gender-Neutral Pronouns"

"Students and teachers in Vancouver can now use the gender-neutral pronouns "xe," "xem," and "xyr." The move is designed to accommodate students for whom "he" and "she" does not fit or is deemed inappropriate…

"The newly coined pronouns — xe, xem, and xyr — are pronounced to rhyme with the genderless plurals "they," "them," and "their," and all starting with the "z" sound. So phonetically speaking, they’re pronounced "zey, "zem", and "zare.""

(Source: io9)

Click here to read the full article.

the article doesn’t do the issue justice.

the issue regarded policy change, where the vancouver school board’s (VSB) LGBTQ+ advisory committee re-wrote existing policy to protect staff and students falling on the queer and trans spectrums. 

the policy revision includes

-they/them/their and non-traditional pronouns being recognized by the school system

-required used of preferred names and pronouns by all staff and students

-preferred names/pronouns on all school records

-gender-accesible washrooms and change rooms available to those who require them

-disciplinary action taken against those who act in a discriminatory or hateful manner towards students, staff, and families falling on the queer and trans spectrums

—————-

the consultation was the longest ever done by the VSB, with over 120 speakers spread across 3 meetings. 

the process also resulting in two school board trustees being ejected form their party’s caucus, due their discriminatory actions and arguments. 

these are links to stories by vancouver media about the issue

CBC

metro news

global BC

huffington post

(via fuckyeahfeminists)

And there is another American profession that has a significantly more alarming problem with domestic abuse. I’d urge everyone who believes in zero tolerance for NFL employees caught beating their wives or girlfriends to direct as much attention—or ideally, even more attention—at police officers who assault their partners. Several studies have found that the romantic partners of police officers suffer domestic abuse at rates significantly higher than the general population. And while all partner abuse is unacceptable, it is especially problematic when domestic abusers are literally the people that battered and abused women are supposed to call for help.
Police Have a Much Bigger Domestic Abuse Problem Than the NFL (via azspot)

(via solitarelee)

Some ways in which gay and lesbian people benefit from monosexism

bidyke:

First - some background:

  • I’ve been seeing more and more people on tumblr arguing that monosexism can’t exist because gay and lesbian people don’t benefit from the oppression of bi people
  • This is a rebuttal of this argument
  • However, monosexism isn’t about gay and lesbian people
  • Seriously, read the links
  • No, SRSLY
  • Pulling the discussion that way DERAILS IT YET AGAIN and draws attention away from the real issue - centering it around gay and lesbian people when it’s supposed to be about bi people and our oppression
  • image
  • I’m posting this anyway because JFC already

Now, some statistical facts (sources are linked):

Social benefits (all elaborated in my book please just read it if you want to know more, I promise it’s all in there):

  • Bisexual erasure stabilizes the heterosexual/homosexual binary. Acknowledging that it exists would insinuate that sexuality is changeable, making it impossible to argue that gay people were “born this way”. So monosexism makes it easier to legitimize homosexuality.
  • Bisexual erasure makes it possible to create (usually binary, cissexist) gender-segregated gay and lesbian environments. Because bisexual people always carry the “threat” of being with “other genders” and then “bringing them into the community”. So monosexism makes it easier to organize and maintain gay and lesbian communities.
  • Bisexual erasure makes it possible for gay and lesbian people to use respectability politics with regards to sex. Because bi men are viewed as closeted men who sneak out to have unsafe anonymous sex behind their wives’ backs, and because bi women are viewed as sluts who make lesbians look bad because they’re “sexually available to men”. So monosexism makes it easier for gay and lesbian people to appear sexually “moral”.
  • These are all points made by gay scholar Kenji Yoshino (and elaborated by me in my book). Go read his article.

Material benefits (all elaborated in my book please just read it if you want to know more, I promise it’s all in there):

  • Gay and lesbian people benefit from the work that bi people put in promoting and being active in queer movements/communities without having to credit them or give anything back to them.
  • Because bi people are excluded from leadership in these movements/communities, gay and lesbian people are the leaders and decision makers. That means they control communities’ agenda, money and resources.
  • Since internalized monosexism often makes bi people believe that bisexuality isn’t important enough to organize around, many contribute most of their activist time and energy to promoting gay and lesbian issues - again meaning queer movements benefit from the work of bi people at the expense of bi people and movements.
  • And of course there’s the part where (as stated above) almost all LGBT money goes to the GGGG part of it, and that bisexual people actually earn less money than gay and lesbian people.
  • These are points made by bisexual scholar and activist Miguel Obradors (and elaborated by me in my book). Go read his article.

And then there are other side privileges…

Then combine all this with the fact that bi people are DISPROPORTIONATELY WOMEN, PEOPLE OF COLOR AND TRANS PEOPLE. Then do the math.

Want to know more? Follow the goddamn links.

Now -

image

[Image: Samuel L. Jackson from the movie Pulp Fiction aiming a gun towards the camera looking angry (Say What Again meme). Top text: “SAY MONOSEXISM DOESN’T EXIST”. Bottom text: “ONE MORE TIME”]

(via bemusedlybespectacled)

Like an ongoing comprehensive education of men of what healthy, respectful manhood is all about, and it starts with how we view women. Our language is important. For instance, when a guy says ‘you throw the ball like a girl,’ or ‘you’re a little sissy,’ it reflects an attitude that devalues women. And attitudes will eventually manifest in some fashion.
CBS host James Brown calls on men to change their behavior toward women. (via contentment-of-cats)

(via misandry-mermaid)

heidiweinburg:

egoting:

Some pictures from the rally today at Columbia. So much wonderful support for my sister and I! Emma and I are truly grateful to everyone who came, and everyone who was there in spirit.

This honestly makes me so emotional.

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khaoskomix:

http://www.discordcomics.com/minoritymonsters/04-lucie-decline/

I like to think she wears a jumper because a bakery is the only place warm enough for her demonic skin.

Vote for the next one!

http://vote.pollcode.com/45182596#sthash.01d5wqrc.dpuf

(via kantala13)

espaliersport:

MUSE of the MONTH   { September }
What does it take to be an award-wining pole athlete?
Our September Muse, Aggie Ng, can tell you. Her elegant poise and persistence, molded her day job as a visual designer and nights spent in her studio -Body and Pole, are the elements to a successful 2-year run on the competitive circuit so far.
You can follow Aggie’s instagram at @snaglikeanag for her news update.
Here’s a short list of her accomplishments:
- 2013 Polesque Winner
- 2013 SuperShag Pole Fitness Championships Winner Gold Division
- 2014 Atlantic Pacific Pole Championships Pro Winner Silver Medalist
- 2014 U.S. National Pole Championships Women’s Division Finalist
- Dance member of PoleSpeak @Polespeak

Aggie is wearing:

VMesh Bratop

Guest Photographer: Simon Leung

(via kiwibat)

HELPFUL BISEXUAL HINTS FROM A REAL LIFE BISEXUAL

jcatgrl:

  • i am not “sexually available to men”!
  • no bisexual is “sexually available to men”!
  • nobody is “sexually available” to ANYBODY just because they are attracted to people of that gender!!!
  • some bisexuals are not even attracted to men! 
  • some bisexuals are attracted to men but deliberately choose not to date them!
  • there are biromantic asexuals who have dated men and not had sex with them!
  • there are bisexuals who have had sex with men and still never “had a dick inside them”!
  • there are bisexuals who have never had sex with men and still “had a dick inside them”!
  • trans men and trans women and non-binary people with all kinds of genital arrangements exist!!! 
  • IF YOU JUDGE SOMEONE BASED ON THE GENDERS OR GENITALS OF THE PEOPLE THEY’VE DATED OR HAD SEX WITH, YOU ARE A TERRIBLE HUMAN BEING!!!

(via bemusedlybespectacled)

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